Mooseman;274561 said:
Oppression??? What oppression? Not being able to "marry"? What is so wrong with a civil-union? I can't join the DAR, am I being oppressed? What about the NAACP?
What is so "right" about a civil union? Civil unions started because people went, "Well, it makes sense that you'd want to take advantage of the same legal things associated with marriage. But we just can't let you have the NAME 'marriage' along with them." In my case, I don't want the name "marriage." Or a civil union for that matter. But my guess is that the people wanting same-sex marriages want the word for the same reason that other people want them NOT to have the word but are okay with civil unions. They find something special about the concept of "marriage." And it's unfair for the government to deny that to some people based on tradition or silly, baseless fears. Or something. That's my impression of what this whole thing is about anyway. Then many civil unions don't offer everything that marriages legally offer and none of the same-sex marriages or civil unions in this country are fully equivalent to the opposite sex counterparts because states can (unconstitutionally) refuse to recognize them. Also, separate institutions are inherently unequal.
The DAR is a fully private organization. So is the NAACP, but you actually
can join the NAACP. I'm sure that they'd be happy to collect membership dues from you, regardless of your race.
rokapoke;274568 said:
Again, my personal standpoint is that if marriage has a religious definition, then the government should not sanction "marriage" at all. The government should be sanctioning "unions" which would, of course, include marriages. But that's just my two cents.
You know, I used to substantially agree with you. But the government doesn't make decisions by first checking with every religious organization and seeing how they feel about the terms used in legislation. They just use whatever terms they deem appropriate. If a religious group wants to also use a certain term, they don't stop them. But they don't defer to religious groups that complain over matters of semantics.
Right now, the government regulates marriage. And if religious organizations were trying to stop that entirely--if they were actually trying to say, "Marriage is inextricably bound with religion and the state should use different terminology in its regulation of legal unions between people," then, while I don't think they'd have all that magnificent of an argument, I wouldn't really disagree with them either. But that's not what they're doing. They're largely ignoring that issue and simply maintaining that homosexuals should not have the same rights that they do, all while using painfully shoddy arguments like, "homosexuality is unnatural," "it would undermine our marriage," "the purpose of marriage is to produce children," and "gays shouldn't be allowed to raise children."
At this point, I'm quite happy to endorse whatever outcome most annoys regressive bigots. It would only be returning the favor for the psychic scars they've left on me with ceaseless logical fallacies, strategic changes of subject, and repetitions of debunked claims.
But I would still be totally amenable to the elimination of marriage as a legal institution and its replacement with something else, preferably something more flexible. If the fundies were petitioning for that, I'd be on their side. But they're not. They just want to keep gays from getting married. In some states, they compromise with civil unions, but I really don't see why "separate but equal" should be taken seriously.
Mooseman;274570 said:
Same-sex civil unions do not have to be exclusively between gay/bi individuals, it can just be for the benefits that are conferred.....
Yes, just like the countless marriages of convenience.
Also, isn't it "oppressive" to limit marriage and civil unions to just two people? Shouldn't it be open ended, as long as they are consenting adults?
You seem to be saying this because you think that it's absurd, but the logical extension of what I (or someone, anyway) was saying. I'm not going to argue against it because I don't think that it's absurd. It's fine with me.